Divorce rates from online dating
One man I spoke with, now divorced, took Scott Hahn’s Christian marriage class with his theology-major fiancée.
Another couple, now divorced, made the twin sacrifices of building a large family and allowing the wife to stay home — because, in the ex-husband’s words, “Simpleminded me, I looked at every sacrament as precious and worthy.” Two others, now divorced, helped at their parish and were sacrificing to send their kids to Catholic schools.
It is truly a tragedy.”One abandoned mother called me after getting a particularly offensive note from a court representative.
“It’s like the Church has let us go into the hands of a monster that is tearing our family apart, and the Church won’t intervene,” she said. When I made my vows, I signed up for something different.”The divorce rate among Catholics is reputedly the same as that among the general public, where about 35 percent of people who have been married have also been divorced.(Not that they always do, of course, but there’s more of an expectation of it.) But a really big part of it is the reality that most women doing online dating quickly learn that if they send polite rejections to men who contact them, they’ll receive an enormous number of hostile and even abusive responses.And you can’t always tell who those are going to come from!Therefore this was not a valid marriage.” “As soon as you even talk about divorce as if it’s an option, you’ve taken your first step,” Patricia, an abandoned mother of five, told me.Still, the black cloud can be dispelled even at this stage, and often is, if the couple looks into the horrible consequences of divorce and decides they just won’t go there. Until someone calls a lawyer.“All it takes is one confused spouse who thinks that divorce will solve their unhappiness,” said Michelle Gauthier, founder of Defending Holy Matrimony.